10 Relationship Capsules Lovers Need to TAKE Often

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Undeniably, as soon as a couple of people have settled into a relationship, things can fall apart. Habitually, the attentiveness that was present at the beginning of the courtship might be replaced by content complacency, and ultimately strives will arise. These simple tips may seem like common sense, but you may be surprised  that a lot of people forget about their importance.

Below are the things which you must not take for granted:

• HONESTY IS KEY

Many people lie to their partners for years out of fear of hurting or offending them, some lies that when the truth is finally known can lead to a whole lot of ugliness on all sides. The one being lied to will know that something is wrong, and the one lying may feel more and more frustration about holding back and the relationship may end up having a lot of 'malware'. This honesty doesn’t have to deal with outright lies, but rather personal interests or preferences that may have changed over the years. Alternately, there could be some serious issues that really should be dealt with, but are being hidden out of fear of hurting the other person. Frankly speaking, honesty really is the real deal, and a strong couple will surely overcome anything by being honest to each other.

• COMMUNICATION IS PARAMOUNT

A few of us are able to read one another’s minds, so it’s important to express things that bother us in a relationship, whether they’re positive or negative. Little behaviors that bother us can become irritating over time, so it’s good to address them early, before the irritation accumulates to the point of anger. More so, miscommunications can lead to some pretty ugly arguments, so if you’re uncertain about something, try to discuss it pacifyingly so you can sort things out: you may have misheard or misread something your partner said or did and taken it totally out of context, so clarify before you boil over. Even though we may feel that we know our partners well after being with them for several years, don't forget that we all grow and change over time, and methods of communication must follow suit.

• NEVER TAKE EACH OTHER FOR GRANTED

Learn to observe and appreciate every thing your partner does for you.This might be as simple as thanking them for washing the plates after you’ve eaten dinner, or telling them how much you appreciate that they made your tea just exactly as you always wanted it. They’ll feel appreciated for the love and kindness they show you, and will express their appreciation to you in turn, so no one ever feels like their actions aren’t being acknowledged.

• RESPECT EACH OTHER'S PRIVATE TIME

Togetherness is important, but it is also important for one to have a private time. Too much time spent together can bring irritation, especially if you feel like your personal space is always being invaded by your partner. Time alone is necessary for personal reflection, growth, meditation, or even just quiet contemplation. Remember the saying that "absence makes the heart grow fonder", surely you’ll appreciate your partner a lot more after having some space away from them. If you live together, it is probably a good idea for you to have a separate place you can retreat to: one may go to office, the other workshop or library, etc.

• SHARE SOME HOBBIES, AND HAVE SEPARATE PURSUITS AS WELL

Your partner may not share your love in sports, and you may not be interested in their love for foreign films, and you know what? That’s absolutely okay. While it’s great to pursue some hobbies and interests together, it’s important to have your own social groups and interests as well. Take cooking classes or gym exercises together, hook up with friends to go to cinema, but then split off for your individual pursuits: you’ll have fun things to talk about when you meet up afterwards.

• ADMIT WHEN YOU'RE WRONG OR WHEN THEY'RE RIGHT

This may be difficult for some people to do, but it really is important. If you discover that you’ve been wrong about an issue or bit of information, admit it: you’ll gain your partner’s appreciation and respect if you do, and if you don’t, you’re just proving yourself to be an immature, numskull. 

Also, if you’ve been discussing something and your partner turns out to be in the right, acknowledge that fact: they may have been filled with self-doubt, and acknowledging their awareness or knowledge may boost their self-esteem rapidly.

                            

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• HAVE FAITH IN YOUR PARTNER

If you’ve been hurt by people in the past, having trust and faith in another person may be difficult. If you’ve been cheated on or otherwise betrayed by another partner, you might worry that the same thing will happen in your current relationship, and this may cause you to imagine things or accuse your partner unnecessarily. If you find that your own insecurities are poisoning your partnership, talk it out with them and consider seeking for counseling: they’re not the person who hurt you, so please don’t assume that just because one person treated you badly, everyone else will do the same.

• FORGET ABOUT THE PAST

If you work through a hardship together and come to a positive resolution, move past it and use the experience as an opportunity to learn and grow. Don’t refer back to it during arguments, don’t bring it up as a means of making your partner feel guilty, and try not to assume that just because something happened once, that it will happen again. What’s passed is past, and revisiting old ugly times will poison future happiness. Forget it.

• HAVE MUTUAL GOALS

It’s very fantastic that you both have a goal or a project that you’re working on together, as that can affect many aspects of your life outside of your actual relationship. You could be saving up for a vacation, building a house, or even working on a garden. Put in enough strengths for the project and ensure you’re working in harmony; build something amazing that you can be proud of having achieved as a team.

• DON'T "LET YOURSELF GO"

It is certain that once you have reached some level of comfort with your partner, you may not really care about what you wear or how you carry yourself-about around your partner; you may even wear a single boxer for days or loose your hair for weeks without minding what/how your partner may feel. That’s totally normal, and really quite hilarious. Mind you, closer comfort levels don’t mean that you should neglect your personal hygiene, or let your living space fall into complete mess. You know they’re not going to judge you if you leave Bullet cans all over the floor, but that doesn’t mean that you should. Try to keep things tidy and your appearance a step or two above “untidiness,” and your partner will undoubtedly feel that they’re worth making an effort for.

I hope this is helpful. Thanks for your time.

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